It has been a long, long couple of weeks. The two little boys we had here a while back were supposed to be coming to stay, so we child-proofed the house, re-arranged the furniture, picked up some things that would have made life a lot easier, like a toilet seat insert and some booster seats for the table, and then…
…and then their father cropped up, after months of being incommunicado, and threw a wrench in the gears by stating that he absolutely did not want them coming to us. All this after the mother, aunties, and all of the grandparents had consulted and agreed that this was a good placement. So then it looked like we weren’t getting them after all. Hubby was particularly let down, as he had really bonded with the little guys. I have to admit, I was pretty sad, too.
The boys are not formally in the foster care system – they are distantly related, but their parents are unable to care for them right now. Other family members had been taking care of them, but did not have the resources to manage over the long term. Word had leaked out that Hubby and I were taking the initial steps to be foster parents, so we were approached about these two, and agreed to take them for a week and see how things went. Of course, despite frustrations, things went fairly well, and we agreed to take them. Until the father intervened, of course. Realistically, we just aren’t in a position to get into a legal battle over these little guys, especially since they are not wards of the state, and we are not officially foster parents, so therefore, we would have no legal standing whatsoever.
Then, we get a call – could we take the boys again for another week? Their current caregivers had a situation come up that they just can’t watch them this week. Of course we could – where else could they possibly go? So, we have a busy house again.
Then a note, that the father may have changed his mind. Nothing for sure, of course….
Can you say rollercoaster?
Meanwhile, the truck we purchased is partially fixed. It needed brakes, a new brake line in the back, and a seal replaced, as well as a few minor things like a new battery and some tidying up. The brakes went pretty well, but we ran into trouble with the brake line, and had to leave it for another week. I say we, but really, it was our buddy who has done all the work, and he has traveled from a town several hours away for the privilege. We are unspeakably grateful, and just wish things went smoother, as now he is going to have to drive back in again, to finish it up for us…he has donated a huge amount of his time to us, and I can’t imagine how we will ever manage to return the favor.
So all in all we seem to have a lot of loose ends hanging around here, and no firm answers to be seen…